Today, many women face the problem of alcoholism in the family. "My husband drinks every day, what should I do? ", "My husband has been drinking for 10 days, how to behave? " - these questions have been asked more and more often lately. Of course, the spouse is an alcoholic - it's scary. And drunk alcoholism, if left unaddressed, can usually turn life into eternal torture. But here you should always remember that alcoholism is a disease and not a person’s personal choice. A sick person undoubtedly needs the support of their loved ones, especially if they cannot cope with the problem alone. But usually when the husband drinks, the wife suffers first. And this is when the question often arises: what to do if the husband is intoxicated? There is little way out of this situation: leave him and divorce, or try to fight for your life and help your sweetheart. Although we can safely say that this fight will not be easy. But the decision here has to be made by the woman herself, the advice of the psychologist does not help. Only he can decide for himself what he wants and what he can do to achieve the goal.
Difficult decision
Divorce is the simplest and easiest solution. Thus, a woman appears to be relieved of responsibility for her future fate. But in this case, you have to follow a certain behavior. The main thing here: if you decide to leave, go. Whatever the persuasion or supplication, it is important to know that the alcoholic’s promises cannot be trusted. He does whatever it takes to convince his wife: he bursts into tears, gives presents, falls to his knees. If this does not work, you may resort to violence or extortion. Therefore, you should not follow your example, because once you believe this, it can trigger a recurrence of such concerts. And they can last for more than a week, or even more than a month. The psychologist’s advice in this case is clear: she needs to make a firm decision, communicate it clearly to her husband, don’t trust promises, and don’t give pity. We must always remember that no matter how bad a husband is, a wife will be twice as bad.
If the choice is made in the direction of fighting and helping the nearest person, the woman must be patient. The most important thing in this case is to understand why the husband started drinking and then go deeper into solving the problem. There are many ways to get rid of alcohol consumption today.
First, you need to learn to behave correctly. If your spouse started drinking more often and gets drunk at times, you can try to change tactics. After all, he is sure that when he returns home, he will run into another scandal with tears and the breaking of dishes. Or maybe you will be greeted by deadly silence and icy contempt? In any case, we must try to change: to become more affectionate, to surround ourselves with attention and care, in addition to drinking alcohol, we must also open up to the other pleasures of life. This behavior often confuses men and makes them much easier to deal with. At the very least, it protects yourself and your children from unwarranted aggression and spares your nerves.
Second, you should try to protect believers from your drinking friends. Indeed, a man most often drinks vodka for company or solitude. When drinking in moderation, men have very low self-esteem. It seems to them that no one needs them anymore and it is not suitable for anything. Try to prove how wrong you are:
- to show that he is the head of the family, the hope and support of the girl, and that without his involvement everything could collapse;
- focus your attention on children who are psychologically difficult to live with a drinking father;
- to captivate you with new interests and hobbies.
Interdependence
A woman may not be able to leave her alcoholic husband. There may be many reasons for this, but you still need to figure out how to live on.
There is a co-dependence where a woman, whether voluntarily or unwillingly, becomes socially or physically dependent on her husband and tries to pull her out of the pit and give it back to the family. This usually occurs when one woman shows a strong emotional attachment to the other. Only an experienced psychologist can help here.
There are clear indications that the presence of co-dependence can be judged:
- the woman is responsible for her husband's health, mood and well-being;
- she tries to please her husband by doing everything for her;
- she feels that she needs to help her husband solve problems, problems in general;
- justifies the spouse's misbehavior in front of others;
- she feels guilty for what happened to her husband;
- he closes his eyes to the problem, believing that everything they don’t do will get better;
- falls into the same alcohol addiction, has no strength to resist;
- considers himself a victim who pays for the sins of the past;
- is physically or emotionally attached to his spouse.
What should a wife do if her husband gets drunk?
There are many reasons why men drink for a long time. Here are the main ones:
- does not want to resist addiction;
- family conflicts;
- inability to cope with stress.
Everyone knows that alcohol creates a feeling of euphoria, making it one of the strongest addictions in a person that you may not feel like overcoming. Poor mentality and willpower can also be a reason for hard drinking. And if the stressful situation at home or work is long-term, one can drink almost every day.
Denial of alcoholism is a problem for all alcoholics. You can keep hearing all sorts of excuses like, "Yes, I’m an alcoholic and I love it! " Or "I don’t drink for no reason". The drinker never admits to being addicted, he seems to be able to quit drinking whenever he wants. In reality, however, it all ends with another snack, after which it begins to reassure itself and the character of those around it.
What to do in such a situation is not difficult to understand - to deal with clearly. But what not to do with a wife is worth figuring out. Not worth it:
- look for excuses for hard drinking;
- to hide the problem, to dress up with a needle, trying to show that it is not what;
- to certify the husband in front of colleagues or bosses because he is not working or is regularly late;
- drink with your spouse to get less;
- give it a drink at home until you drink on the street;
- to wash away and clean up afterwards the consequences of your alcohol intoxication;
- buy alcohol;
- extortion through sexual intercourse;
- threatens divorce;
- treat her husband secretly from her.
There are several ways to help get a person out of a binge state:
- pharmaceutical solution;
- folk remedies;
- psychological assistance and rehabilitation program;
- prayer or conspiracy against alcoholism.
Easy to eat
In such an early stage of alcohol dependence, you can try to cope with folk methods to stop eating. It is also good that the treatment can be done at home. The very first thing is to let the patient sleep and then rest. Consumption of plenty of fluids is recommended to restore the body's water-salt balance. In this case, various fruit drinks, herbal decoctions and decoctions are suitable. Contrast showers, herbal baths, massages and other body repair and recovery treatments are also available. It is not advisable to seek medical attention without consulting a doctor, otherwise it may cause unforeseen complications.
Drinking
If the bite lasts for more than three days, you will most likely need the help of a narcologist. You can also call a professional at home. He correctly evaluates the patient’s condition and prescribes the necessary medications, following the doctor’s instructions carefully.
Most often, to relieve withdrawal symptoms, your home doctor will place an IV drip to help cleanse your blood of alcohol toxins and the breakdown products of ethanol. It often also contains restorative ingredients and sedatives. The fact that the person drinking very often becomes aggressive, panics or unexplained fears.
In order to calm and restore the nervous system after eating, your doctor may give advice to a psychologist and prescribe psychotropic medications.
Strong eating
Strong eating usually lasts a week or more. If the situation is virtually uncontrollable or the drinker has a chronic illness, only hospitalization of the patient at a narcology or toxicology clinic can help. Hospital treatment helps prevent the possible unpleasant consequences of heavy eating, which can take the form of "delirium tremens" or alcoholic psychosis. In this condition, the patient is unable to control himself and may commit aggressive actions against any member of the family in a state of insanity. Of course, it is not advisable to bring it up so far, but if the withdrawal syndrome suddenly becomes very difficult, treatment with herbs or prayers is essential. You should go to a narcology hospital as soon as possible, otherwise it could cause serious damage to your health or even death.
conclusions
When a husband is an alcoholic - it’s a terrible sorrow for people close to him. They worry and suffer, even more so than the patient himself. Sometimes life becomes so unbearable that you have to make a choice: keep your family or your own health. It is rare for a woman to end a once happy family life, especially if there are children who still love the abbot. There is nothing left but to pull his sweetheart out of this terrible trap. However, this is very difficult to do on its own and not even necessary. In this case, you cannot do without psychological help and support. The advice of an experienced professional will tell you how to behave correctly and what you need to do to get your husband out of intoxication and return to a normal life. Only great patience and by no means despair, because despair can lead to amazing actions that you can then sincerely regret.